What to Say When Someone Says “I Love You More”

“I love you more” Wow, what a sweet expression! Especially when it’s coming from someone you feel the same about. It’s a wonderful phrase to hear. Unfortunately, we don’t always know how to respond and this leaves an awkward pause in between our conversations.

It has happened to me severally and being blank after hearing this phrase is not an option. Love, as we all know is the feeling of deep affection, desire, tenderness, passion towards another person. When expressed face to face, on a card or a text message, it always has a great impact and it needs to be reciprocated.

When someone says  “I love you more” do not hesitate or let that moment go down by keeping quiet. Always find something to say, something better. Say, ‘not more than I do’, ‘you can’t beat me at loving’; ‘I am crazy about you’ or better still, ‘I love you most’. If you don’t feel the same don’t shy away, you can respond by saying, ‘I appreciate that’, I never for a moment take that for granted’, ‘I need you to’, or simply say, ‘thank you’.

In my own experience, it’s amazing how such a short-expression can change the whole mood. It can make one feel extremely special, cared for and loved. Or else, it can make them feel as if they are not equally appreciated. That’s why you should know just the right things to say so that you are not caught with a blank stare at the heat of the moment.

It’s all cute when you all get argumentative about who loves who more. Isn’t it? Don’t just shy away, try these responses!

1.     “I’m crazy about you”

Yes. Just say it. I know it feels a little off but it is perfect. Telling them you are crazy about them, will spice up the whole conversation. It is a capturing phrase that drives the conversation deeper. This is something they will keep replaying in their head. When you know someone is crazily in love with you, you’re likely to get some Goosebumps, the tingly feeling that lingers until bedtime.

When you tell them you are crazy about them, try explaining to them what exactly about them you are crazy about. For example, “I’m crazy about your body, I’m crazy about your charming voice, your lips, your eyes, and so on. Do not overdo this though; it may water down the special feeling. Let it leave the person feeling they are always there in your heart and mind and you think about them at all times.

Do you notice how powerful this response can be? Admittedly, this is one of the most romantic ways you can respond when someone says “I love you more”. You can even say it and pause without adding another word.

2.     “I know”

As rude as this may sound when said with the right tone, it leaves a wonderful feeling of assurance. You will be amazed at heart-warming it is to your significant other. Sometimes when you two are giggly, happy and just enjoying each other’s company, responding to” I love you more” with “I know “might just bring about your inner child’s genuine chuckles.

This response speaks contentment. It says ‘’I know because of how you treat me, how you care about my interests, how you support me in every way, how you reciprocate the love I give you…” Responding with “I know” is an epic assurance that you know how loved you are. It also shows you have been noticing all their good deeds towards you, and all the affection they show you.

3.     “I love you most”

Think about it, when you respond with “I love you most” you might just win the argument. It’s a bit silly, but yes, that’s the interesting bit. You want to use this statement when you love the person twice as much. Make them feel it by letting your tone add meaning to your words. If you are close to each other, rubbing their back or hand or wildly smiling back if apart makes it sink further.

4.     “I Love you better”

What does this mean? Is it better to be loved better or be loved more?

I think loving someone better is on another level. It means you already know how to love them, you have known their heart and things that make them truly happy.” I love you better” is deep. In my opinion, it makes someone feel the true, natural, real, unquestionable, and tangible love you have for them. They feel understood. It leaves the same sensation ‘I got you’ does.

5.     “I am lucky”

Everyone wants to be lucky. Luck is having something so good you cannot afford to lose it. It’s an achievement, a success, a fortune. When you respond ‘I am lucky’ it delivers the same message as ‘you are a gem’.  ‘You are special; you make your world a better place’. Use this phrase if they make you feel safe and you cannot get them out of your head for a moment. You cannot estimate what an impact this phrase will make.

Few people get lucky with love. If you are feeling lucky, then you are and you should tell them so they know. This will definitely add value to your relationship.

In conclusion

There are countless ways to respond to ‘I love you more’ and it has nothing to do with who wins. It’s a common expression at a moment of ecstasy. How you respond to it is what determines how long that moment will last. Your response can show just how strongly you are in love. It strengthens the bond even more. Failure to respond may create an awkward moment between you so it’s best to avoid it at all costs.

As the saying goes, actions are louder than words. When you prove your words with actions, you cement them. They become more meaningful so be careful to make your response count. Choose the right tone and timing to get your desired results.

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Am a graduate sociologist and a regular contributor to national publications such as the American Journal of Economics and Sociology, Journal of Applied Social Science and the Annual Review of Sociology.

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